Embracing Identity Shifts in Adulthood

Adulthood is often thought of as a time of stability—career, relationships, and life routines settling into place.  Yet for many, it is a period of profound identity shifts, especially during the period in which many refer to as “emerging adulthood”.

Originally coined in 2000 by psychologist Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, the term “emerging adulthood” refers to the distinct developmental stage between ages 18-29, used as a time of exploration and instability between adolescence and full adulthood, characterized by the delay of traditional milestones such as marriage and financial independence.

For neurodivergent adults, identity shifts during this period can be especially pronounced.  As you gain more insight into how your brain works, especially if you were diagnosed later in life, you might find yourself reconsidering how you approach relationships, work, and your social life.  You may find yourself re-exploring sensory needs and discovering ways to unmask.  These revelations can feel equally liberating and disorienting, especially if you have spent years conforming to neurotypical ideas.

Sexuality, too, is often fluid during this period.  Many use this time for experimenting and reflection on their sexual orientation, gender identity, and patterns of attraction.  Embracing this fluidity involves relying on both community support and self-compassion.  
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Arnett emphasizes that this period of time is not a crisis, but rather a normal developmental process.  By acknowledging the variability of this time, we can approach with curiosity rather than fear.  No matter what the shifts are related to, whether identity or sexuality or purpose, they are opportunities to live more authentically and align with our truest self.